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Post by Del on Nov 19, 2010 23:26:40 GMT -5
Well you've got tons of birthday wishes on Facebook. Thought I'd bring some to this board:
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D <3<3<3
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Post by Wunderkind on Nov 22, 2010 1:10:19 GMT -5
Ahhh, I missed your birthday! Well, I wish you the best all the same, and the world is luckier to have you for another year.
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Post by KG on Nov 22, 2010 19:51:46 GMT -5
Thanks you guys!!! I am thankful you remembered. I had a great birthday.
I've been very busy trying to make money and find ways to make more money. I plan to post some money making ideas as I learn more about that. I'm also planning to write a few e-books and I've been typing a LOT on text broker. I am kind of swamped right now but I managed to take a few days off last week... or almost days off. I worked some... it's kind of addictive, but overall it's fun and I am earning so it's all good.
Anyway thanks so much for the birthday wishes and it's great to hear from you all.
Hi MEM!!! send me a PM sometime and let me know how you are! I still check the site most every day, but things are so up in the air I hardly know what to post. Still we are doing OK, and opportunities are opening up.
Hi Raquel, thanks for the birthday wishes, and drop me another PM soon. Let me know how things are going.
I know you are lurking around Kata! I'm doing fine and hope to hear from you soon. How are things going.
I love all you guys... and the rest of you who haven't checked in lately as well. I would love some new posts, and just to know you guys are still breathing.
Kim
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Post by ~Sephity~ on Nov 24, 2010 2:08:15 GMT -5
SORRY FOR MISSING YOUR BIRTHDAY BUT YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU <3 hAPPY bIRTHDAY!
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Post by KG on Nov 24, 2010 19:03:03 GMT -5
Thanks Sephity,
I love you too. I am very glad to hear from you, and hope you are well. It seems like we are all just busy surviving, but I do miss you guys. I still check the site every day so if you have news feel free to post.
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Post by Ashira Bloodmoon on Nov 25, 2010 15:57:15 GMT -5
AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH! I FORGOT A BIRTHDAY! *throws cake at Kim cause I can*
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Post by ShutterBug on Nov 25, 2010 19:22:10 GMT -5
Happy birthday! Sorry I'm late, lol.
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Post by KG on Nov 27, 2010 8:59:23 GMT -5
hi shutterbug!!! Good to hear from you. How are you? How's your brother and your mom? Things are good here.
Kim
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Post by KG on Nov 27, 2010 15:59:20 GMT -5
Hi Ash!!! How are you and Lan? Good to hear from you!
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Post by ShutterBug on Nov 27, 2010 17:20:28 GMT -5
My brother now lives with my father, and my mother's drinking problem is about as bad as it used to be.
So, fan freaking tastic.
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Post by KG on Nov 29, 2010 11:48:37 GMT -5
Hi Shutterbug, I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like life is giving us all a some hard knocks lately. I hope your mom realizes what she's doing, but we can't be responsible for others, only to ourselves.
I'm kind of trying to re-establish myself within my own life, contribute more, and have more responsibility and say so. It's kind of weird how everyone is just sitting back and letting me, just do all this stuff. I'm not taking the usual criticism maybe because no one else has a better idea for once. IDK... it's kind of weird how things are working lately I don't really understand what's going on, but something is.
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Post by ShutterBug on Dec 8, 2010 23:44:11 GMT -5
I feel like her babysitter most days. Ugh. I'll be gone soon, though, and then she'll have to deal on her own. I worry for her. I'm glad that you're trying I hope it goes well for you. I know it can sometimes be hard in putting forth that effort.
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Post by KG on Dec 9, 2010 19:40:50 GMT -5
I think we are all just in shock because the difficulty level of life seems to be increasing. At least it feels that way to me. I am just going to plow through it and hope for the best. So far so good though. My bank account has stopped bleeding money and started to gain, but I have to work really hard to make it do that. LOL
It sounds like you need to have a long talk with your mom about stuff, but I know that can be hard. I still believe in honest heartfelt communication though. Now days people talk about intervention and they have this idea that you have to confront someone all at once... usually after ignoring a situation for years.
I really think that's overkill. I wouldn't' want people to gang up on me like that, but if you are worried about her, it's OK to tell her gently and then just listen, maybe there are things she hasn't told you, or something she needs to talk about with someone that would help her. Have you tried getting her to open up about her feelings?
Kim
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Post by ShutterBug on Dec 10, 2010 23:01:48 GMT -5
Yup. My mom is kinda like me: avoid a problem long enough and it shall totally go away.
It makes it harder to have patience with when my sense of reality is slipping lately. It's getting bad. I feel very disconnected from everything.
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Post by KG on Dec 11, 2010 17:53:11 GMT -5
My grasp on reality has always been very slippery too. Plus reality is relative, and conditional and really I think it's very existence is debatable in some cases... it's largely POV. Reality is very very hard to define, and it seems to me it's more of a choice which reality is true for us, and it may not be the reality that is true for someone else.
Your mom's problems are relative... I mean social drinking, having a drink or two after dinner and alcoholism are three totally different things, and yet... one thing can lead to another. The real difference is between people who have a drink every now and then, and those who frequently NEED a drink. Which is which... It's hard to tell, and really it's all in the eye of the beholder at least at the level we were talking about last time.
One test is whether a person is functional I gather. AT least that's what I was reading recently about other psychological problems. I mean if a person can get up and go to work the next morning it's debatable as to whether there's a problem.
When I was in my twenties, I had no idea I had a problem till circumstances led to me not drinking for a couple of weeks. I had no idea I had a drinking problem till I experienced DTs. Even then I just thought my nerves were bad. I was shaking, so eventually after about two weeks of that, I had a strange craving and bought a cheep bottle of wine to settle my nerves. Only then did the picture become clear. As I downed the half gallon bottle in two gulps, and found that I'd stopped shaking and felt great. I deduced I was an alcoholic. Until then I didn't have a clue. Once I knew it was a simple thing to quit, I'd just never thought of it.
Thus if you want to know if your mom's got a drinking problem just see if she can go two weeks without a drink, and not shake like a leaf in the wind. If she can she's not got a problem, and you need to stop worrying about it. Maybe you could make a bet with her. Two weeks? Just bet her two weeks worth of no alcohol. IF she can do that without coming unglued then there is no problem.
I remember thinking a few years ago that I wished I was still an alcoholic so I could quit, and fix my problems. LOL Really it was a lot easier to quit drinking that it was to figure out what in the heck was wrong with me when I felt like I was so forgetful, confused, exhausted, and feeling hung over and I hadn't had a drink in over six months... and then it was just one. I guess I was just sick, but couldn't figure out what was wrong.... menopause is what I guessed... but if so it isn't over yet. I really don't have a clue what it was. So anyway it's great to be an alcoholic so you can quit and fix the problem. LOL
From what you said before your mom's problem is kind of borderline, and I have no idea which side of it she falls on. I hope that she isn't really hooked but it's not really that hard to quit if she is, once she wants to. Maybe if she is, she's like me and didn't realize there is a problem. Just bet her. If she can go two weeks without drinking, or getting DTs, you will get off her back, and chances are she'd jump at the chance.
Kim
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