Post by Aywen on May 26, 2010 16:13:51 GMT -5
It seems like the typical story when a teenager claims she/he is in love. Most people don't take it seriously. They say it's all lustful thinking/ wishing. When you've been with someone for years, and absolutly nothing of the sort has occured, is it love?
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly two years. Our anniversary is in August. There are three major overlapping problems in our relationship, he is older that I and we started dating after he moved away to New York from Virginia. The third is most disturbing, but comes later. We met at a friends party and found we had much in common. We continued talking until he moved away. We had become close friends, and he asked me if I would date him. I accepted.
It was hard for us because of the distance, but we still shared a strong bond which held us together. He helped me get through depression twice. He never came to visit me as he promised he would, which has always made me sad. The plans he had made for this summer were canceled. I won't get the possibility of seeing him until next year after I graduate.
Now comes the real issues. My boyfriend has cheated on me numberous times, many I did not know of until a year after it happened. He cybered with a close friend of mine, who I am no longer close to. He now lives with his ex girlfriend, and they now have a child nearing four months old. He claimes it was 'rape'. He's kissed a few girls before and they were the ones who told me about it. Lastly, on a game we played, I logged on his account for him to recieve an item and came to find two of his alt characters were married to two girls I knew from the game, which suggests he had secret relationships with them as well. Aka, cybering. The most recent thing to come up is to find he sleeps with his 'ex', which i found out a near two weeks ago.
I don't know what to do. M best friend who has always been by my side through my pain had always encouraged me to leave him, but with the most recent problem, she foresaw depression if I left him. He persuaded her to try to get me to stay with him yet again. I have litterly dedicated the past two years of my life every single day to him. It is possible I could fall to depression again now that I would have my own life back. But I wouldn't be happy.
Which would be better? Life without him hurting me but depression and unhappiness, or a life where he hurts me so often, but when he isn't, I am happy? It's so hard to let go. Would letting go be the right choice? And if so, how? Please help my petty teenage emotions get straightened out. Ps.- Sorry to bore you.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly two years. Our anniversary is in August. There are three major overlapping problems in our relationship, he is older that I and we started dating after he moved away to New York from Virginia. The third is most disturbing, but comes later. We met at a friends party and found we had much in common. We continued talking until he moved away. We had become close friends, and he asked me if I would date him. I accepted.
It was hard for us because of the distance, but we still shared a strong bond which held us together. He helped me get through depression twice. He never came to visit me as he promised he would, which has always made me sad. The plans he had made for this summer were canceled. I won't get the possibility of seeing him until next year after I graduate.
Now comes the real issues. My boyfriend has cheated on me numberous times, many I did not know of until a year after it happened. He cybered with a close friend of mine, who I am no longer close to. He now lives with his ex girlfriend, and they now have a child nearing four months old. He claimes it was 'rape'. He's kissed a few girls before and they were the ones who told me about it. Lastly, on a game we played, I logged on his account for him to recieve an item and came to find two of his alt characters were married to two girls I knew from the game, which suggests he had secret relationships with them as well. Aka, cybering. The most recent thing to come up is to find he sleeps with his 'ex', which i found out a near two weeks ago.
I don't know what to do. M best friend who has always been by my side through my pain had always encouraged me to leave him, but with the most recent problem, she foresaw depression if I left him. He persuaded her to try to get me to stay with him yet again. I have litterly dedicated the past two years of my life every single day to him. It is possible I could fall to depression again now that I would have my own life back. But I wouldn't be happy.
Which would be better? Life without him hurting me but depression and unhappiness, or a life where he hurts me so often, but when he isn't, I am happy? It's so hard to let go. Would letting go be the right choice? And if so, how? Please help my petty teenage emotions get straightened out. Ps.- Sorry to bore you.